As the captain put the boat in full throttle, I went into my Zen thinking about water. I asked the captain why watercolor was different in parts of the ocean. He answered, “Water is just reflecting what is underneath. The light blue means sand is at the bottom, and dark blue is where the sea grass covers the ocean bed.”

The response immediately reminded me of my prior writing on the issue and sparked a lot of deep thinking. I noticed that the water surrenders to the air on top and lets it define the magnitude and intensity of waves.

Water tells us not to identify with anything. Embrace whatever comes your way as part of yourself because everything we can see and feel is part of this cosmos. Identification with who you are, nationality, religion, intelligence, institution, or even relationship is the source of all problems. Take cosmic identity like water.

Ego is not just about being full of yourself. It's something deeper. Consider the ego to be a home created brick by brick, with our experiences, beliefs, cultural training, and opinions serving as the building blocks. Over time, this house becomes your whole world, limiting how you see things. You might start feeling like you're in control, but you're just stuck inside this self-made fortress.

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The sense of "I" or “me” that we acquire as we mature and engage with the outside world can be understood as the ego or personality. We form an internalized picture of who we are based on our perceptions of our social roles, talents, and shortcomings. This sense of ourselves is the cornerstone of our ego, directing our feelings, ideas, and moreover, actions.

Ego formation starts in childhood when we begin noticing there is a physical difference between us and the outside world. We start creating our own IDENTITY, which is where it all starts.

Successes and failures strengthen our ego as we mature. Successes strengthen it, while setbacks can either weaken or strengthen it depending on our interpretation. For example, a career-minded individual may base their ego on their professional identity, but setbacks may foster resilience or self-doubt. Personal reflection expands on this awareness, bringing complexity to the ego.

Ego generates a false sense of separation from others and the world. This sensation of isolation grows, and the identity strengthens, creating an impenetrable amalgam of our beliefs and the reality we build in our brains. We regard others as competitors rather than friends, causing conflict, division, and loneliness.

As I discussed in my last blog, we are all part of one. You and I are not we; you and I are ONE.

The ego, a primary source of suffering, clings to illusions of control and permanence. Recognizing and releasing it leads to true freedom and joy. Dissolving ego leads to inner peace by reducing internal conflict driven by desires and attachments. Relationships become more authentic and compassionate without egoic filters, fostering deeper connections. Releasing the ego opens the mind to greater clarity and wisdom, allowing for objective decision-making from a place of inner truth.

But how can we dissolve the ego and let go of the rigid personality?

Recognizing the interconnectivity with the cosmos is critical to transcending the constraints of the ego. Recognize your ego's presence and actions first. Observe your feelings without judgment. View them as passing clouds, not the sky. You grow more detached from ideas and emotions when the ego's power over you relaxes, and you see things as they are. Fluidity of personality is the key. When you don’t become attached to one personality, one thought, one emotion, etc., meaning you are not rigid, it helps you to be what is appropriate in a situation.

Separating from outcomes further reduces ego. Focusing on the process rather than the result reduces ego control over emotions. Meditation and mindfulness help us view our ideas without attachment, reducing ego influence. They allow you to create a little space between you and yours, which is the first step in letting go of the ego.

Additionally, compassion and acceptance are vital. Extending compassion towards oneself and others weakens the ego, enabling us to relinquish our critical nature and accept our imperfections as inherent components of the human condition. We diminish our egos when we treat ourselves kindly rather than harshly when we make errors.

This adjustment in perspective involves recognizing that the "I"-idea is not our fundamental identity but rather a thought like any other. Disidentifying from this concept allows us to recognize our true nature and provides immense freedom, peace, and a strong sense of life's interconnectedness.

This process of ego dissolution is about self-discovery, not altering the personality. Are you ready to leave your ego's confines and embrace your genuine self's vastness? There lies the pathway towards a more gratifying existence.

Does this idea resonate with you? What steps will you take? Let me know in the comments below.

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An old saying resonates with our discussion: “No two people see the same thing.” It's a testament to the unique combination of observation, emotion, interpretation, and contextual assumptions that shape our perceptions. This variation in perception is a phenomenon, highlighting that much of what we consider 'reality' is a product of our individual imagination.

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Consider a simple ceramic vase on a table. Despite its apparent simplicity, it becomes a canvas for many interpretations. A potter friend might scrutinize the glazing procedures and clay types, while the colors and design might move another. An analyst, on the other hand, might estimate its value based on craftsmanship and age.

Moreover, our perception of the same subject changes often. I wondered how we can pretend to grasp our reality objectively if we can't even agree on the nature of one simple object we can all directly perceive.

This knowledge can be disturbing and exciting since it implies that each of us lives in a slightly different version of reality.

Shankara, an esteemed mystic in Southern India, defined reality as “that which never changes.” Following this criterion, nothing in the physical world can be considered to have a true, lasting reality. Everything in this universe is a perpetual "process" of motion, action, and transience.

Even our physical bodies are continually replenishing themselves as millions of cells die and are replaced with new ones. Modern physics presents incredible evidence that further shatters the human concept. Even at the atomic level, the solid materials we consider the building blocks of reality are mostly empty space. Each atom has a tiny nucleus surrounded by a huge space and electrons circulating as distant clouds.

In a way, waking existence is like a lucid dream. We imagine vivid realities in dreams without our senses. Like our waking reality, our mind's interpretations and emotional resonances shape these dreamscapes. This similarity raises intriguing issues about whether our waking world is really dreaming, determined by our perceptions and mental constructs.

So, if my sense of self is an illusion, and the world around me is mostly empty space, what does that say about reality? As some scientists and philosophers propose, could it be that our universe is a giant simulation? Am I just a character in some infinite play, only perceiving the things that have been coded into the simulation?

Mystics point out that the entire cosmos is a projection of consciousness itself, an endlessly creative dream that emerges from fundamental awareness. Only the realm of immovable consciousness qualifies as eternally real.

As bizarre as the theory sounds, it's tempting to dismiss it outright. However, if the world is a performance performed in a place of pure consciousness, it does not sound too different from a complicated simulation. But does it really matter?

I am left wondering how I chose to live my life. If reality is this changeable, I may have more control over my own experience than I previously imagined. I get to choose what kind of story to live in and what kind of character to become. And, while this freedom may be illusory, accepting it makes life feel much more joyful and less fearful.

What do you think – is life real, or do you feel like you're in a game or a dream? Share your viewpoints in the comments sections.

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I have heard over and over again that you live your life as if it is the last day of your life. I’m amazed that why would anyone wait for the last day to have the best time of their life? I want to do it from the very beginning.

A few years ago, I had this profound realization: “Today is the first day of the rest of my life.” I want today to be the best day of my life so far. We underestimate the innate power of this statement and the possibilities it offers. It provides an opportunity to let go of the past and focus on what you can do now.

This notion completely shifted my idea about life. I realized that every day is a new possibility, and my life could change with each passing day. I've seen myself as the author, creating a life of progress, perseverance, and joy. The finest part is that you can shape the plot as you want along the way.

This mindset reminds me of a story famous actor Will Smith shared from his childhood. During one of the summer breaks, Will’s father tasked him and his brother with building a wall in front of his shop. The enormity of the work nearly drove them to quit. However, they completed the job, and the lesson learned was that you shouldn’t think of a wall; just lay each brick to the best of your ability.

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Every day, every moment, is like a brick in your life (like a wall in Will’s story): an opportunity to make choices, act, and get a little bit closer to the grand vision we hold for ourselves. You learn brick by brick and realize your true potential.

Naturally, we'll stumble. Some bricks might be less perfectly laid than others. But remember, the spirit of failing forward is crucial.  We analyze our missteps, not to dwell on them, but to refine our approach. With every mistake, we gain wisdom. With every dawn, we begin again, armed with experience and a fierce determination to keep building.

Anxiety about the future or images of the past is easy to become trapped in. We all have regrets and wish we could change certain things. No matter what we do, we can’t change what has happened. People suffer from memories of the past, while nothing material is left of it. Today, offer yourself the grace of forgiveness. The person you are now has learned from those experiences. Every sunrise is a cosmic reset button, a chance to build on your strengths.

Similarly, most of us are sleepless, imagining all that can happen next. All we can do is be ready for it. Life is in this moment.

Our (humans') true power is in deciding how we want to be, how we interpret and respond to challenges, and what kind of energy we project into our existence.

It is never too late to reclaim your narrative. Each day is a new opportunity to shed what no longer serves you and live the remarkable life you deserve. So, take deep breaths, trust (not believe) firmly in yourself, and make the first day of the rest of your life count!

Remember, the only person you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday and contribute to the broader universal self and the cosmos we are one with.

Let me know how you plan the first day of the rest of your life in the comments section.

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In a previous blog post, I discussed the notions of Preya (immediate gratification) and Shreya (long-lasting fulfillment). Inspired by Eknath Easwaran’s “Essence of Upanishads, I emphasized how these variables shape our decisions and how easily we might be attracted toward the brief joys of Preya while ignoring the deeper rewards of Shreya.

However, recognizing the difference is only the beginning. The key question is, how do we always select Shreya? I have been captivated by this thought and struggle every day. I know many of my impulsive actions put me in a cycle of default mode. I know what the right thing is to do. However much I want to opt for Shreya, a part of my mind pushes me to go for Preya. I can see most people around me indulging in activities and habits, which, by their definition, are only for instant gratification and are harmful in the long run. But we all do the same.

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  The solution resides in a force more powerful than our constant desires: the will. In this blog, I look at Chapter 6 of the above-mentioned book, exploring the deep insights from the Upanishads on developing a strong “will quotient” (WQ), which the author believes is superior to IQ. Think of WQ as your willpower’s stamina for making mindful, challenging decisions that bring long-term joy, well-being, and fulfillment.

Preya's pull is not a moral flaw on our part. Preya is hardwired into our biology and reinforced by the environment. It's natural to be attracted often to some indulgence. Preya offers fast bursts of pleasure, whereas Shreya needs time and is generally less exciting at that moment.

Will vs. Desire has been a constant struggle with everyone since the dawn of time. You are not the only one experiencing the conflict between will and desire. It's a universal topic that has persisted throughout human history. Since ancient times, when Odysseus compelled his sailors to tie him to the mast to resist the sirens' alluring melodies and to Aristotle's philosophical reflections on the ethics of desire versus reason-based action, this internal conflict has fascinated civilizations.

Recent neuroscience and psychology research shows that our biological composition influences our impulses. Our brains respond to rewards and how self-control works. According to research, our brain's desire for happiness frequently smashes the perseverance required to achieve long-term goals.

This never-ending conflict unfolds within each of us. Our appetites, powered by genetic instincts and cultural conditioning, are like the loud merchants at the market, calling out offers of sugary delights and transitory entertainment. They are formidable forces, offering delight with each transient purchase.

The will quotient serves as the charioteer in this concealed battle.  The aspect of ourselves that assesses the intrinsic value of our desires and chooses the trajectory of our journey drives the will to choose what is appropriate. However, this charioteer, particularly at first, is frequently outmatched. The horses of desire are strong and well-trained, and they are used to leading us to Preya's attraction.

However, as a competent charioteer can control misbehaving horses, you can also develop autonomy.  Meditation could be a profound training platform. You could gain the ability to observe your desires without becoming entangled in them. By enhancing concentration, you can develop the cognitive endurance required to make deliberate decisions rather than impulsive responses.

Building the will quotient is not about renouncing everything or deprivation. It does not imply being a joyless person. Consider a world in which every delightful treat is marked "forbidden." This technique may work briefly, but it is unsustainable and eventually destructive.

Think of a masterful artist. They grasp the power of colors and brushes to create an aura to stimulate our creative senses.  Similarly, a strong WQ lets us negotiate the world of desires with insight rather than restriction.

The key to developing a strong will quotient is to have a perceptive mind. We learn to distinguish between the passing highs of Preya and the deeper satisfaction of Shreya. Consider a lazy or postponing approach to work and relationships; it can have long-term consequences for your quality of life and leave your actual potential untapped.

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Building WQ is like building muscle. We start slowly and gradually increase the difficulty and consistency of our exercises. Instead of promising never to eat another cookie, we should begin by fighting the desire for another. As our willpower grows, we may face larger difficulties, such as scheduling devoted study time even when social media calls.

A strong will is more than saying “no” to temptations. It opens a whole new world of possibilities. Here are some of the transforming abilities of a high WQ:

• Resilience: Life offers surprises, and a strong will enables us to withstand storms, overcome obstacles, and progress toward our goals. Consider encountering a setback at work. With a weak will, despair can lead to giving up. However, a high WQ enables us to assess the situation, learn from setbacks, and get back on track.

• Deep Connections: Relationships take effort, not simply dopamine bursts from short-term or digital engagements. A strong will enables us to put in the effort required to establish and maintain meaningful friendships. We may be there for loved ones, demonstrate compassion, and devote time to sustaining connections.

• Inner Peace: Life is fast-paced, and slowing down is paramount for developing will quotient. Imagine being continually inundated with demands, each demanding immediate attention. This is a formula for anxiety and restlessness. A strong will instills a sensation of calm control. We learn to manage our desires, not the other way around. This liberates us from the tyranny of impulse and allows us to enjoy the peace of being the chariot of our decisions.

A strong Will Quotient is about unlocking our full potential. The will quotient allows us to navigate life by choice, not impulses. It allows us to become the architects of our lives, creating our fates with intention and purpose. The will quotient leads us to a journey of self-discovery and a life filled with meaning, resilience, and true satisfaction.

What are your challenges, and how do you overcome them? Let’s discuss this in the comments section and explore our true potential together…

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I just finished reading chapter 2, called “Two Paths,” and could not resist sharing the life-changing concept with my readers. The chapter highlights the core concepts of Preya (pleasant) and Shreya(Beneficial) – a framework that impacts our well-being. 

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This chapter underscores the profound power of choice we have for every decision we make that determines the quality of our lives. Every choice, in fact, falls under the two concepts of Shreya and Preya. The goal of Preya and Shreya is common: satisfaction. However, the approach is poles apart.

Preya represents the slippery slope of instant gratification.

Preya represents the realm of transitory pleasures and sensory immediate gratification. Preya is the inner voice that says, “Just this once won't hurt,” when we know a choice conflicts with our deeper goals. Preya's allure is compelling, especially when it whispers quick fixes and promises effortless rewards.

Preya is a master of persuasion. Preya mimics the sales tactics used by those who prioritize profit over our well-being: Picture this: a person sees a warning before he lights up a cigarette. However, most of the time, he questions: “The evidence is insubstantial...Sure, they may kill you... but do you have a choice?” Preya excels at downplaying risks and amplifying immediate rewards, tempting us to ignore the long-term consequences.

Preya might justify procrastination with a comforting. We are familiar with phrases like, “There's always tomorrow” or "You deserve to treat yourself."  Preya skillfully distracts us from the big picture. Its focus is always on the here and now.

Preya's pleasures, like delicious candy, disappear fast, leaving us craving more. Consider the temporary thrill of venting our anger, only to be followed by regret and potentially damaged relationships. It's fleeting satisfaction – a deceptive path that rarely leads where we truly want to go.

Shreya, the difficult road takes toward lasting fulfillment.

Shreya embodies what genuinely benefits us, promoting health, security, and lasting contentment. Unlike Preya's quick payoffs, Shreya's path often involves discipline, patience, and delayed gratification. Consider the work needed to break a bad habit, the patience needed to restore a broken friendship, or the mindfulness needed to be calm in chaos.

Shreya doesn't appear in flashy packaging. It requires looking beyond immediate appeal and recognizing that genuine well-being involves choices that might initially feel challenging or less exciting. Shreya's rewards unfold over time, fostering a deep sense of fulfillment and inner peace.

Shreya is subtle. It requires looking beyond superficial appeal and recognizing that genuine well-being often involves choices that might initially seem unappealing or difficult. Shreya's intense rewards unfold over time, fostering a deep sense of fulfillment and inner strength.

Shreya offers wisdom, not rigid rules. She knows enjoying life's pleasures in moderation is key to health. We may resist her advice, fearing she wants to deprive us of joy. But true joy comes from balance. Without health, security, and peace of mind, life grows unhappy.

Become the chariot of your life by mastering our faculties.

Easwaran presents a powerful correlation: our lives are like a chariot. Our senses are powerful horses, our intellect the driver, our emotions and desires the wheels, and our true self is the rider within. When Preya prevails, those impulsive horses run wild, dragging us toward destinations we don't consciously intend to travel. Imagine surrendering to road rage and acting out in the heat of the moment despite our best intentions. This is the senses taking control.

Easwaran gives a beautiful example. He says, “The job of the intellect is to see clearly, and the mind's job is to act as reins. When everything is working in harmony, we – the Self – make all the decisions.”

When our desires crave something unhealthy, like a martini, how many of us can assert our will and choose lemonade instead? Too often, our untamed impulses override our better judgment and drag us to the bar regardless. “I have a drinking problem,” we say. However, the truth is that we have the “horses” (senses) problem. We must train our unruly mental horses through the steady practice of self-mastery. Only then can we truly steer our life.

Shreya allows us to train our horses. With the intellect firmly in the driver's seat and discipline guiding our emotions, we reclaim our role as the rider. It's this conscious choice that empowers us to steer towards greater fulfillment. The text highlights this mastery: a trained charioteer enjoys responsiveness and can confidently navigate life's journey.

Preya vs. Shreya: an ongoing internal battle—and the power of choice

The tension between Preya and Shreya is something we grapple with daily. While we aspire toward health, inner peace, and loving connections, Preya relentlessly offers tempting detours promising instant, though ultimately hollow, pleasure. The wisdom of the Upanishads lies in recognizing this internal struggle for what it is, allowing us to become mindful of our choices in every moment.

Imagine yourself about to scroll mindlessly through social media when a deeper voice reminds you of your intention to start journaling instead. This is our power of choice – the chance to opt for Shreya over Preya.

The power of choice in leading a fulfilling life.

While Preya's temptations will always knock on our door, prioritizing Shreya leads to a profound shift. By becoming the master of our chariot, we embark on a journey toward:

• Improved Well-Being: nourishing our bodies, pursuing wisdom to broaden our minds, and nurturing our spirits.

• Stronger Relationships: Instead of seeking superficial approval, focus on developing healthy bonds based on respect, kindness, and trust.

• Inner Peace: Cultivating mindfulness, practicing gratitude, overcoming adversities with resilience, and connecting to something more than ourselves.

Easwaran reminds us that this lifelong endeavor requires determination and constant commitment. Training those powerful "horses" requires consistent effort and focus. However, by grasping the tremendous difference between Preya and Shreya and continually exercising our power of choice, we can pave the way for a life rich with meaning and deep fulfillment.

The sense of separation stems from ignorance. When we look closely, there aren't any real boundaries between the rest of the universe and ourselves. We share the air we breathe, the sunshine we get energy from, the food we eat becomes us, and we become the earth when we leave the world. Therefore, believing that we are separate from others is ignorance. I am the universe, and the universe is me. There is no “other.” The concept is profoundly explained in Indian scriptures as “Aham Brahmasmi,” which means I’m one with the universe. In other words, the source of creation is as present in me as it is in any other part of the cosmos.

Thich Nhat Hanh, the well-known Zen Buddhist monk, teaches us this truth in Chapter 7 of his book, “Reconciliation.” Nhat Hanh writes, “We have the tendency to blame our others, as if they’re separate from us. So we have to look deeply and ask, are we growing every day? Are we happier every day? Are we more in harmony with ourselves and with the others around us, the unlovable people as well as the lovable people?”

When we fail to recognize this interconnectedness, we judge others, reacting with anger or condemnation rather than empathy. We try to hurt those who have hurt us without realizing they are also suffering.

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Nhat Hanh, notes:

Because we are often caught in the images of our past suffering, we easily develop wrong perceptions and react to others in a way that brings about more suffering. Suppose we’re angry with someone because we believe this person tried to make us suffer. That’s our perception. We believe the other person’s intention is to make us suffer and to make our life miserable. That perception brings about anger and the kind of actions that will lead to more suffering for all involved.

… We see that there is suffering in the other person and wrong perceptions in him. We have reached some level of awareness, but the other person may not have because he doesn’t know how to recognize and handle his suffering and get out of his current situation. He suffers, he makes himself and the people around him suffer.

As soon as we see this, we have another way of looking at him. We see the suffering in him and we can see that he doesn’t know how to handle his suffering. When we’re able to see the suffering in him and see his situation, compassion arises. When compassion arises, anger is transformed. We will not act in the direction of punishment, because we have no more anger.

This is the intervention of insight. We can be saved by our insight because it helps us to correct our wrong perceptions. When wrong perceptions are no longer there, anger, fear, and despair are no longer there. Instead, we have compassion and the willingness to help.

Nhat Hanh teaches us not to let the ghosts of the past take over. We often believe that unfortunate events in the past prevent us from being happy in the present. However, the past is not real. Only the present moment has life. When we become preoccupied with thoughts and fears about the past or future, we lose sight of the wonders and opportunities that exist in the present moment.

Reconciliation is possible if we cultivate understanding and practice mindfulness. We can see the suffering in ourselves and others. We recognize incorrect perceptions that fuel resentment. We stop blaming and start helping, driven by goodwill rather than a desire to punish. This provides immediate peace before we even act.

Mindfulness helps us become aware of our thoughts, feelings, and actions, allowing us to see the interconnectedness of our existence with the universe. This awareness leads to a deeper understanding of our place in the cosmos, fostering compassion and empathy towards ourselves and others.

When we look deep inside consciously, anger transforms into compassion. Nhat Hanh uses the example of a son who is angry with his father for being too authoritative toward him. It's tempting to blame and punish the father. However, deep introspection reveals that he did not understand how to love skillfully.

Reconciliation involves expanding our hearts. Overcoming dualistic thinking, or the division of self and other is necessary for reconciliation. We should cultivate four qualities for an immeasurable heart: loving kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity. Our hearts grow until they are immeasurable, embracing all beings, including those who have harmed us.

Nhat Hanh uses the analogy of putting dirt in a water glass versus a massive river. The glass becomes undrinkable. But the river is so large that the dirt does not pollute it. Similarly, when our hearts are small, we cannot bear the pain caused by others. However, with an open, expanded heart, we can accept suffering without being affected by it.

Reconciliation does not depend on the actions of others. Even if someone has died or refused to communicate, we can forgive ourselves. As Nhat Hanh wrote, "Reconciliation is still possible. Because reconciliation demands resolving internal conflicts to restore peace."

When we reconcile internally, it radiates outwards. We can send a heartfelt letter to someone who has passed away. The act of writing with sincerity heals us on the inside, even if the recipient cannot read it.

We can embrace love and overcome separation when we come to understand that we are one with the universe. Reconciliation is always possible when one has a clear vision and an open heart. We must search deeply to alter habit energies and end the vicious cycles of resentment and blame that bring about so much suffering.

When I read this book, especially the abovementioned chapter, my mind started racing, thinking of several names I must reconcile with. I’m sure you, too, have a long list. I have started being one with the universe. You should, too.

Like Rumi said, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

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I attended two days of meditation camp in Atlanta last month. I started practice to becoming meditative on June 6, two times a day for 40 minutes which included roughly 15 minutes of yoga poses. My experience in just over a month has been life-changing, to say the least, in so many ways I never imagined.

Some of the subtle but powerful positives for me include:

• My scores on Oura ring improved significantly. My resting heart rate went down from an 18-month mean of over 60 to last month’s average of 53, and heart rate variability has increased significantly. Overall sleep scores, including REM and deep sleep scores, improved. My blood pressure is now standard on most days, even without medicine.

• I feel much calmer, focused, and emotionally stable. The most significant observation is that I’m not reacting to situations as frequently as before. I’m now much more comfortable to deliberate and respond from a place of compassion rather than habit.

• I’ve also noticed that some of my decisions and thoughts are much different now. I believe this is because connecting to my inner self potentially lets me tap into intuition more often.

• My relationships, especially with my wife, are becoming much more serene. Expectations are giving way to empathy. Meditation taught me to embrace the imperfections of myself and others.

Sitting in stillness became profoundly relaxing while also strengthening my capacity for awareness and attention. When thoughts inevitably ascended, I learned to gently guide my focus back without judgment. A simple practice cultivated tranquility and provided an inner refuge from the external chaos which you can’t control beyond a degree. I understood why enlightened sages called being meditative "food for the soul."

Being meditative is a journey of self-discovery and inner transformation. There are many myths around it, especially in the West. Let’s try and debunk some of these.

• Firstly, the idea that meditation requires "clearing your mind," or the absence of thinking, has prevented many people from trying it. However, some thinking while meditation is natural. Establishing space between yourself and your body and mind is founded on sitting quietly and not allowing thoughts to emerge. However, our minds and bodies are built so that we compulsively do what we are asked not to do.

  It is okay. You don't have to force thoughts away or achieve some ideal blank state. Being meditative is about gently returning your awareness to the present each time the mind wanders. Thoughts will come and go - witness them without judgment. Don't let this myth dissuade you. Slowly you will become meditative.

• The second myth is that spiritual beliefs are a prerequisite. Meditativeness is a state of mind not confined to religious or spiritual beliefs. You may follow any religion or not follow at all. It requires no dogma or mystical ideas. The attractiveness of being meditative for me stems from its independence from God, ritual, holy texts, leaders, or the promise of salvation. Meditation is a tool to look inward, tap into your inner consciousness and elevate your mind.

• Thirdly, many people think that sitting cross-legged and relaxing is the only aspect of meditation. However, meditation is much more than just being relaxed. Although it might calm you, the long-lasting changes come from improving your attention, clarity, self-awareness, and serenity. Regular practice improves your fundamental thinking and rewires the neural pathways in your brain.

  Additionally, cross-legged sitting is not necessary for meditation. Even though good posture encourages awareness, you can meditate whether standing, lying down, or even walking. Avert tense notions about the "correct" posture. Learn what makes your body relaxed and alert. The true power of meditation is in mind training, not achieving ideal behavior. It is an inner journey, not dependent on outer forms. Stay open to your own experience.

Start with just 10 minutes of being in a meditative state. There are many ways to practice meditation—experiment to discover which method resonates most with you. Consistency is important. Remember, Denzel Washington says, “Without commitment, you’ll never start, but more importantly, without consistency, you’ll never finish.”

Regular practice trains to focus on the present, promoting calm and emotional stability. It rewires our brains to break entrenched patterns and boost creativity. Being meditative bolsters mental strength, empowering mindful responses to situations instead of reactions. It balances our nervous system, enhancing overall well-being. This simple daily habit becomes a game-changer through unlocking these higher human faculties—strengthening relationships and the quest for uncovering our maximum human potential.

The ultimate goal of being meditative is not to achieve salvation but to cultivate an inner sense of joy and fulfillment that will make us more compassionate humans. The goal of being meditative is to establish space from the body and mind's constant activity, which eliminates the source of our suffering: attachment to our physical and mental states. Meditation allows us to loosen the grasp of self-preservation and expand inclusiveness to the entirety of existence. We overcome constraints, fully embrace life, and bravely explore new realms.

The state of meditativeness allows us to live free of self-consciousness on the voyage into the unknowable infiniteness of existence.

I have crossed my point of no return. Join me on this transformational journey.

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Like most of my readers, I want the best of both extremes. But how do we strive to reach our maximum potential and simultaneously seek liberation from material possessions? I pondered over this dilemma for some time and finally found the answer in the teachings from Bhagwad Gita. This Hindu philosophy sacred scripture narrates the life lessons Lord Krishna imparted to Arjuna, the warrior ready to battle his friends and family.

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In my previous blogs, I talked about various people who talk about continuously striving for peak performance.  Former Navy SEAL and endurance athlete David Goggins embodies the concepts of relentless pursuit to test physical limitations and mental strength. Goggins highlights that our potential exceeds our wildest dreams and urges us to embrace change and take charge of our life. Tim Grover, author of "Winning: The Unforgiving Race to Greatness," argues that winning is brutal and unforgiving. He urges people to engage totally in themselves, embrace their "dark side," and make sacrifices to pursue personal development and accomplishment.

Winning can be a rewarding experience filled with joy and a sense of accomplishment. However, the nature of true winners is such that these feelings are fleeting. You've hardly finished celebrating your success when you're back at square one, confronting the next obstacle. Consider conquering the mental barriers that made you skip a challenging workout. You overcame the blockage, reached your fitness objectives, and celebrated. You're back at the starting point the following day, ready to set new goals and push yourself further.

However, when we strive for a goal in our quest for limitless potential, we frequently get obsessed with the intended outcome. We place too much importance on winning, and it is difficult to accept defeat when we lose. Many of us would not even begin the voyage scared of losing, while others never attempt again following initial failure. The brain becomes clouded, overthinking about the outcomes, which prevents acting with complete clarity.

Bhagwad Gita teaches the balance between peak performance and spiritual harmony. Gita teaches "Nishkama Karma," which translates to "selfless action" or "action without attachment to outcomes." Krishna tells Arjuna, “You have the right to work, but never to the fruit of work. You should never engage in action for reward, nor should you long for inaction. Perform work in this world, Arjuna, as a man established within himself – without selfish attachments, and alike in success and defeat.”

Renunciation of the fruits of action does not imply indifference to the outcomes or a lack of ambition. It only requires us to watch the outcome from a respectable distance and not become emotionally involved or obsessed with it. It is about accepting that we do not have perfect control over the consequences.

When we focus on the actions and remove emotions attached to the destined result, we begin to work with clarity of mind. The “why” of performing the action leads to clearly identifying the “how” of the process without getting emotionally entangled in “what” will be the achievement.

We might set ambitious goals, establish strict habits, and work persistently to accomplish them. However, we must also establish separation from the external benefits and plaudits that come with achievement. We will find joy and contentment from the process of trying for objectives, regardless of the result, by moving the emphasis from the outcomes to the current process.

This mindset of keeping a distance from the results allows us to maintain equanimity, resilience, unwavering determination, and freedom from the fear of failure or external judgment.

I’m practicing keeping a distance from results and taking emotions out in my work and relationships. I’m already seeing improved clarity of mind and improvement in my output. This is also helping in maintaining joyful and stress-free relationships.

The moment we remove the burden of expectation of the results from our pursuits, an inner peace starts taking shape…and the journey to transcendence and liberation begins.

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The universe was listening and provided just that. A few weeks ago, an email popped up inviting me to attend the “Art of Livin’” by Matthew McConaughey. I have talked in my blogs about discovering who I am, winning against self is the most important competition, the importance of life experiences, flexibility and strength of being like water, the power of a conscious and creative mindset, taking action, and intuition, along with being boundless to unearth limitless potential we all have. I know what is right, and I have been practicing it.

However, sometimes, you need a reminder, an external voice to reconfirm and validate your beliefs about life, values, purpose, and the tools to navigate the journey called life effortlessly. The event provided me with just that.

Therefore, I decided to share with my readers some key takeaways from the event.

Background: I have not watched any of Matthew McConaughey’s movies. However, I have heard him speak over the last few years. I loved his style of storytelling, the choice of words, and the anecdotes he presents from his life to relay the thought. I read his memoir “Greenlight” twice and listened once. It is a gem! If you have not read it, I highly recommend reading it. For those who want a quick download of critical ideas, see my thoughts at the end of the blog.

So, I attended the “Art of Livin’” event on April 24. You must be intrigued by the choice of the word “livin’” in the title of the event. Matthew explains during the event that life is nobody’s proper noun, and there’s no “g” at the end of livin’ because life’s a verb.”

The notion that “life is a verb” emphasizes that we are constantly changing and adapting to fit in with our surroundings. The concept shows how vital it is to participate in one’s life and enjoy the ride. Developing, learning, and adapting throughout time are essential for thriving in life. This point of view urges us to do what it takes to make our lives meaningful and authentic expressions of who we are and what we value.

The event began with the idea that what binds every one of us is a desire for more. We seek wisdom, money, wealth, and freedom. McConaughey emphasizes science’s fundamental connection to the art of livin’. Science is knowledge, art is experience. The scientific side represents facts and methods, while the artistic side represents each person’s goals, dreams, and feelings. Science can create art. Studying the playbook and using the right tools may help one call audibles and create life’s art. The art of living makes life meaningful and enjoyable.

McConaughey recommends asking the appropriate questions to have a happy and fulfilling life. Living effortlessly has no single solution. Mastering life requires serious self-questioning and honesty. These questions will help people achieve their ultimate goal: a life they like and are proud of.

The “art of livin’” also involves finding your frequency or life’s driving forces. Finding your frequency requires risk-taking and experimentation. “Be prepared to confront the impermanence of life,” says McConaughey. If you follow your passion and principles, you’ll find your unique frequency and live a real life.

McConaughey emphasizes that self-awareness is the first step to mastering the art of livin’. Accepting our views, feelings, and prior experiences helps us manage fear and uncertainty. We must own our future-altering decisions. Being adaptable and open to new ideas might improve your life.

The event was full of inspiring talks by Tony Robbins, Marie Forleo, and Trent Shelton. I have already re-visited parts of the conversation, and they have provided me a boost and have inspired me to become more of what I’m today. Remember my blog on how we are never finished.

I’m in a crucial phase of my life where the outcomes of my actions will profoundly impact the quality of my life. However, I can confidently say that whatever the outcome is, I’m more joyful than ever in taking these actions and will not stop chasing the goals even if the results are not in my favor. Life is an obstacle course, and I’m prepared with a big heart and smile.

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As promised, below are some excellent quotes and their context from McConaughey’s thrilling memoir, Greenlights.

McConaughey describes life as a road trip full of traffic lights, greenlight (positive moments, opportunities, and realizations that propel us forward) and red and yellow (obstacles, setbacks, and moments of uncertainty or reflection). The key is resilience, which turns the red lights into green. McConaughey notes, “The problems we face today eventually turn into blessings in the rearview mirror of life. Yesterday’s red light leads us to a green light today.”In many cases, people need a challenge to push them to develop and change for the better. We will learn valuable lessons and grow as individuals by facing adversity head-on.

Another important lesson I learned from the book is a quote from McConaughey’s father, “I’d rather lose money having fun than make money being bored.” McConaughey also said in an interview, “It is okay to have a beer on the way to the temple.” This expression is a metaphor for taking pleasure in the little things in life without feeling guilty about them, even when you are focused on the end goal. It also emphasizes the significance of balancing material comforts with the pursuit of one’s happiness.

“Stepping in shit is inevitable, so let’s either see it as good luck or figure out how to do it less often.”This phrase underlines the influence of perception on our experiences. Misfortune is unavoidable in life, but we can choose how we perceive and respond to it. We may better handle life’s ups and downs by changing our mentality and viewing setbacks as chances for progress.

“Persist, pivot, or concede. It’s up to us, our choice every time, and a good plan is first to recognize the problem, stabilize the situation, organize the response, then respond.” The statement emphasizes that we have the choice of response, and by careful selection, we can change the outcome of the challenging situation.

“It is not about win or lose, it is about do you accept the challenge.” This comment underlines that facing and experiencing a problem could be more valuable than winning. If we accept the process, we may grow as individuals and gain knowledge from the experiences that we have had.

“We cannot appreciate the light without the shadows. We have to be thrown off balance to find our footing. It’s better to jump than to fall.” The quote highlights the need to maintain equilibrium despite the inevitable ups and downs that are a part of everyone’s lives. The ability to persevere through adversity and adapt to new circumstances can be developed by accepting and even welcoming the challenges and unknowns that lie ahead.

I will leave you all with this McConaughey’s quote to ponder on our existence, the life we want to create, and the mark we want to leave on the lives we have touched, “Rather than struggle against time and waste it, let’s dance with time and redeem it because we don’t live longer when we try not to die, we live longer when we’re too busy livin’.”

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Most of us often use things like promotions at work, financial gain, and public acclaim as yardsticks for determining whether we’ve succeeded. It is always measured in the external world. Comparisons to friends, coworkers, and complete strangers on social media are difficult to avoid in a culture that constantly sets us against one another.

I believe this is self-defeating, as we can conveniently choose what we want to compete against. Our ugliest side reflects when we must win against ourselves by overcoming our mental and physical barriers.

When we stop comparing ourselves to others and start competing with ourselves, we start to see real growth. Taking this tack allows us to appreciate our strengths and pursue endeavors that align with our deepest beliefs and ambitions.

Imagine you have promised to quit smoking, run every morning, or meet a tight deadline. Now, you are tempted to take a puff or sleep an extra 30 minutes and not go running because it is raining outside, or you are thinking of an excuse not to meet the deadline. At this point, if you can beat these thoughts and get on to the task, you are a winner.

However, winning is brutal and unforgiving. When you win, you can enjoy, celebrate, and feel proud. But for true winners, these emotions are short-lived. You are back to zero in no time because the next win is waiting. Think about it, you overcame your mind, which was trying to decide against an intensive exercise session. You finished it successfully and feel good about closing all your fitness goals for the day. Guess what, next morning, you are back to zero.

Similarly, think about a bigger goal. You fight against all odds, accomplish it, and enjoy success. But the winning mentality will not let you live there for long, it will push you back to the starting point in pursuit of the next milestone. The horizon is pushed farther out every time.

This is what I call “Never Arrive.” The foundations of the winning mindset and the concept of never arriving are the assumptions that personal development and progress are continual processes and that there is no final destination or point of arrival in life. This idea contradicts the belief that we may attain ultimate success and pleasure by achieving specific milestones. Instead, it asserts that genuine happiness stems from understanding our limitless potential and enjoying the process of self-improvement.

Never arrive is an idea reflected in everything around us, from nature to human potential. Human nature is such that we are always longing for more.

Never-ending change and adaptation show that not even nature has reached its final form. Over time, organisms adapt to their new habitats. In the face of threats like shifting climates or the arrival of new predators, animals adapt by adopting new characteristics and ways of behaving. The leap from the Agricultural Revolution to the Industrial Age to the Internet Age is nothing short of phenomenal in terms of technological innovation. New discoveries are produced every day, expanding the bounds of possibility.

Human potential is also evolving and changing throughout time. Every day, people from many walks of life — sports, science, art, and business — accomplish things that were once thought impossible. These remarkable achievements show that the only limits on what people may do are the ones they set for themselves.

Competing and winning against self and a never arrive attitude move the emphasis from external validation to personal development. It urges us to accept that life is not a race with a finish line but a never-ending journey of self-discovery, learning, and progress.

When we train ourselves to believe that we will never arrive and to compare ourselves exclusively to our previous selves, every day presents a fresh chance to improve. Motive can be found in self-improvement and the understanding that one is better today than yesterday rather than seeking validation through external successes or plaudits.

To fully accept this concept, one must greet each new day with an open spirit, a sense of humor, and a will to grow. Some examples of this attitude are contemplation, seeking out novel experiences, and a general willingness to develop oneself. If we take each day as an opportunity for growth, we are more likely to forego the temptation of comparison in favor of introspection.

Cultivate a “never arrive” mentality by always challenging yourself, creating new goals, and viewing setbacks as stepping-stones to success. Appreciation and continuous education are the keys to a good life. You can maintain a healthy lifestyle with supportive friends and experiences. Since personal growth is a never-ending process, it’s essential to regularly assess your progress and decide if a course correction is required.

Tim Grover, author of “Winning: The Unforgiving Race to Greatness,” analyzes and dissects the cognitive processes of elite performers. Grover’s work offers fundamental ideas on developing the “never arrive” and winning against self-mentality and the relentless desire to explore your limitless potential.

A winning mentality results from persistent efforts, self-control, and purposeful planning. You could find the motivation to keep developing by accepting that you will “never arrive.” If you want to succeed in life, Grover says to embrace your “dark side,” your ferocity and resolve. Successful people are those who are fully invested in something. Your inner drive may power your never-ending progress and positive outlook.

Grover believes you must be prepared to make some concessions if you want to be successful. The “never arriving” attitude involves paying the price for personal development and being prepared to sacrifice anything for the sake of achievement.

Grover stresses the need for mental fortitude. Your ability to bounce back quickly from setbacks will strengthen your will to better yourself. Grover also emphasizes being adaptable and receptive to new ideas. Successful people are always tweaking and perfecting their strategies. Keeping an open mind to new ideas and information might give you a leg up in the never-ending quest for betterment.

Rumi says, you are not a drop in the ocean; you are an ocean in a drop. We generally underestimate our own potential. I did for many years. Now, practicing the principles I outlined in this blog, I can convincingly say that we can achieve almost anything we set our eyes on with a burning desire, action, adaptability, grit, commitment, and discipline.

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I had difficulties in my young adulthood where I underestimated my abilities. Slowly, I started realizing the power of manifesting, and practicing it began to change my life. However, the quest to become boundless and break the cycles of success-driven happiness is life-changing for me.

In this blog, I want to share what it means to be boundless, its relevance in achieving your maximum potential, and how it can lead to a life filled with joy, spiritual growth, and limitless endeavors.

Being boundless, as a concept, refers to the idea of transcending the limitations and constraints imposed by our physical, mental, and emotional experiences. Being boundless profoundly resonates with me and represents my journey toward self-realization and the pursuit of my limitless potential. Being boundless means breaking free from the barriers we impose on ourselves, whether these are societal norms, self-doubt, or limiting beliefs.

Being boundless at the very core is trusting that our true nature is not confined to the boundaries of our body, mind, or ego. Instead, we are interconnected with the entire universe and are an inseparable part of it. This realization enables us to tap into our innate potential and experience a state of boundlessness. When we recognize that we are more than our physical bodies and mental constructs, we can unleash a tremendous source of creativity, insight, and power.

We can approach boundlessness by examining the nature of reality and consciousness. The ancient Indian philosophy of “Aham Brahmasmi”(translation: “I am the Absolute Reality) embodies this idea, signifying the union of the individual with the ultimate reality, the Brahman. We create a sense of limitation and boundary when identifying as separate individuals. Aham Brahmasmi teaches that the ultimate reality is a non-dual, all-pervading consciousness. By recognizing our identity with the supreme consciousness, Brahman, we transcend these limitations and experience our true boundless nature.

Throughout history, spiritual leaders and philosophers such as Sadhguru, Dr. Deepak Chopra, Rumi, Lao Tzu, and Alan Watts have explored the concept of boundlessness. Sadhguru, an Indian mystic and yogi emphasizes the importance of exploring our inner dimensions and realizing that physical or mental constraints do not limit our true nature. Sadhguru also speaks of the importance of absolute involvement but not attached to it. By being involved, we can fully engage with life and experience it to the fullest, while detachment allows us to maintain our inner balance and freedom, regardless of external circumstances. This balance is vital to embracing our boundless nature.

In his book “Metahuman,” Dr. Deepak Chopra introduces the concept of “nonlocal consciousness,” which transcends the boundaries of time, space, and individuality. By accessing this state of consciousness, we can tap into our boundless potential and experience a deep connection with the universe. Chopra also emphasizes the power of intention and focused attention to manifest our desires and shape our reality, further demonstrating the boundless nature of the human potential.

Epictetus, a Stoic philosopher, believed in distinguishing between what is within our control and what is not, allowing us to focus our energy on cultivating inner virtues and embracing our boundless potential. Rumi, a 13th-century Persian poet, and Sufi mystic, beautifully expressed the boundless nature of love. At the same time, Lao Tzu, the founder of Taoism, advocated for living in harmony with the natural flow of life.

Cultivating a deeper connection with our true selves and the universe enables us to become more attuned to our spiritual nature. This heightened awareness and a deeper connection with our true selves and the universe allows us to make better choices, act with wisdom and compassion, and contribute positively to the world.

The journey toward boundlessness involves letting go of the things that hold us back, such as fear, attachment, and ego. Unconditional love, compassion, and selflessness help to connect with the boundless nature of our being.

To become boundless, we must engage in practices that help us expand our consciousness and break free from limitations. Some of the methods to start your journey toward being boundless include:

1. Develop self-awareness — Embrace a growth mindset and engage in meditation and journaling to deepen your understanding of your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs.

2. Embrace change — Welcome the uncertainties of life as opportunities for growth, breaking free from the limitations of your comfort zone.

3. Practice gratitude — Cultivate an appreciation for the present moment and the interconnectedness of all things, developing a deeper connection with your boundless nature.

4. Practice letting go — Identify areas where you may be holding on to fear, attachment, or ego, and consciously work on releasing these constraints. This might involve letting go of unhealthy relationships, forgiving yourself or others, or relinquishing the need for control.

5. Engage in spiritual practices — Explore various spiritual practices, such as yoga, meditation, or prayer, to cultivate a deeper connection with your true self and the universe. These practices can help you develop a greater sense of inner peace, balance, and boundlessness. Remember, yoga is not merely a physical exercise but a way to unite the body, mind, and spirit.

As we continue to explore the boundless nature of our existence, let us remember that our potential is infinite, and our capacity for love, joy, and growth knows no bounds. My quest for boundlessness has led me to discover the interconnected nature of all things and the unlimited potential within each of us. We can positively impact ourselves, others, and the world around us by embracing this mindset and applying the teachings of great spiritual leaders.

Together, let us embark on this journey towards boundlessness, unlocking the limitless possibilities within and creating a life filled with joy, purpose, and profound meaning.

Sadhguru says, “The only way out is in,” and Rumi said, “Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.” Dive deep into your inner self, explore the boundless nature of your being, and unleash the infinite potential within you.

#neverarrive #boundless #limitlesspotential

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Manifestation is the process of bringing your thoughts and ideas into physical reality. Manifestation is based on the law of attraction, which states that like attracts like. Remember Rumi’s, “what you seek is seeking you.”

The Bhagavad Gita, a Hindu scripture, teaches that manifestation results from one’s thoughts, beliefs, and actions. It emphasizes the importance of maintaining a pure and focused mind and cultivating positive attitudes and actions to manifest one’s desires.

Your thoughts, emotions, mindset, and beliefs create a vibrational frequency that determines what you attract into your life and shapes your reality. Creating a vibrational frequency that aligns with your desired outcome will attract the people, resources, and opportunities you need to realize it. This means that whatever you focus your thoughts and energy on, positive or negative, will be attracted to your life.

Recent studies have shown that manifestation can significantly impact our lives by helping us achieve our goals, improve our mental health, and increase our overall well-being. For example, a study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology found that people who engaged in positive visualization exercises experienced greater happiness and well-being than those who did not. A study by the University of Manchester found that people who visualized their goals were likelier to achieve them than those who didn’t.

Limiting beliefs is one of the biggest obstacles to manifesting your ideas into reality. Limiting beliefs are often rooted in fear, self-doubt, and negative self-talk. Common examples of limiting beliefs include “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t have enough time,” and “I’ll never be successful.”

Focus on overcoming limiting beliefs and not letting them undermine your potential. Write down why you are good enough and deserving of success. Repeat these positive affirmations to yourself daily until they become your new belief system. Set specific, measurable, achievable but challenging, relevant, and time-bound goals. Break them down into smaller, manageable action steps.

Many people have spoken about how the power of manifesting helped convert their dreams into reality. For example, Jim Carrey has talked about writing himself a check for $10 million when he was struggling, visualizing himself receiving the money and eventually getting paid $10 million for a movie role.

My story is a testament to the power of manifesting and the importance of maintaining a positive and determined mindset. I have turned my dreams into reality by visualizing my desires, creating positive thoughts, and acting toward my goals. While growing up, my only big desire was to leave my hometown and never return. Over time, this turned into a burning desire that I was willing to do anything. Eventually, I moved out to do MBA and never looked back and then started a series of manifesting ideas followed by action to turn them into reality.

Some other examples include getting a job at a company that I thought could be a breakthrough in my career, moving to the U.S., and now getting a green card. I can see a pattern in my story where your intuition provides you with an idea, which is challenging, but if you start believing that it is achievable and are willing to do whatever it takes, the entire universe conspires to make it happen.

I greatly relate to Vishen Lakhiani, owner of Mindvalley, on the subject. He says the key to manifestation is to practice the state of “flow,” where you’re in the present moment and fully engaged in what you’re doing. Doing this lets you tap into your intuition and let the universe guide you toward your desires.

Similarly, after I read Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, I could relate it to my life. Mr. Hill believed that thoughts could be transformed into physical reality. He said that the first step towards manifesting one’s desires is clearly defining them in one’s mind, which should be accompanied by a strong, positive emotion, such as faith, love, or hope, followed by an organized action.

The technique of manifesting ideas for growth has put me on an unrelenting life-long pursuit of stretching my boundaries. I believe this has happened to all of us at some point in life. However, if we can consciously take on the process and act deliberately in that direction, we can achieve much more profound outcomes. Trust me, if I can do it, anyone can.

So how can you start manifesting your dreams into reality? Here are some tips to get started:

Visualize your goals — take some time each day to visualize your goals. See yourself already having achieved your goal and feel the emotions that come with it.

Focus on positive thoughts and emotions — maintain a positive outlook and avoid negative thoughts and emotions. Negative-self talk could be detrimental and confuses the mind.

Act — nothing could be achieved by just manifesting. Ultimately, you must organize and pursue an action plan every day. Undoubtedly, there will be days without progress and inevitable failures, but persistence will help you stay on course. If needed, change the action plan but do not give up.

Trust the process — manifestation takes time and patience. Remember, ideas become a reality when preparation when meets opportunity. You can only take control of your preparation. The universe is always creating opportunities. Trust that the universe works in your favor and that everything will fall into place.

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Intuition, at its core, is often described as a gut feeling or inner knowing that doesn’t rely on conscious thought or rational analysis. Instead, intuition is a profoundly intuitive sense that arises from our subconscious mind and guides our actions, ideas, and emotions. It’s a form of subconscious processing that draws on our past experiences and insights to guide us toward the right decision or action. When we learn to trust our intuition, we can tap into a deeper source of wisdom and creativity that helps us navigate life’s challenges more easily.

Intuition is often dismissed as a vague and mystical concept. However, scientific evidence supports its existence and importance in our lives.

Science has shown that the brain processes information unconsciously before it becomes consciously aware of it, allowing us to make split-second decisions. Intuition is rooted in the unconscious mind, which is capable of processing information at a much faster rate than our conscious mind. The subconscious mind can process information up to 11 million times faster than our conscious mind, found a study conducted by scientists at the University of California. This implies that our intuition can pick up on subtle environmental cues and patterns that we might not consciously recognize, helping us make more informed decisions.

Research has shown that intuition is particularly effective when making quick decisions or dealing with complex information.Participants in a study published in Psychological Science journal found that those who trusted their intuition could solve a difficult problem faster and more accurately than those who relied solely on logical analysis. Another study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology concluded that individuals more in tune with their intuition had greater life satisfaction, creativity, and self-awareness. The University of Michigan found that people who scored high on a test of intuition would make more successful investment decisions than those who scored low.

Several books have explored the science of intuition and its implication in life’s trajectory for realizing your unlimited potential. In his book, Blink, Malcolm Gladwell makes a case that our intuition can be incredibly accurate, even when we don’t have all the necessary information. He cites several examples, such as the ability of art experts to identify a fake painting in seconds and the ability of firefighters to sense when a building is about to collapse.

Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander argue in “The Art of Possibility” that intuition is the key to unlocking our creativity and discovering new possibilities. Similarly, James Redfield, in “The Celestine Prophecy,” explores how intuition can guide us toward our purpose and help us connect with the universe’s energy. He notes that intuition is not just a tool for decision-making but a way of life that can help us live in alignment with our true selves.

Many successful people, from business leaders to artists, credit intuition for their success. For example, Steve Jobs was known for his intuitive approach to product design. He once said, “Intuition is a very powerful thing, more powerful than intellect, in my opinion.” Oprah Winfrey has been vocal about her reliance on intuition in making decisions. Albert Einstein credited his intuitive insights with helping him make breakthroughs in his work. He once said, “the intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

The scientific and real-life evidence suggest that intuition is critical for progress and well-being.Now, the question is how to tap into such a vital faculty and use it at your will to unleash your unlimited potential.

I learned some practices by listening to some great minds. I have been using them regularly and can confirm firsthand that these practices work. A few to start with are:

Cultivate presence — being present is the foundation of accessing our intuition. Practice mindfulness meditation, breathwork, or other techniques that help you connect with the surroundings and increase your mental presence.

Listen to your body — our bodies are powerful antennas that can pick up on subtle signals from the universe. Pay attention to how your body feels when deciding or pursuing your goals. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s likely your intuition telling you to reconsider.

Practice self-reflection — reflecting on your thoughts and emotions can help you connect with your inner wisdom. Journaling, meditation, or talking with a trusted friend can help you process your experiences and gain insights.

Trust the universe — the universe constantly sends us signals and synchronicities that can guide us toward our purpose. Paying attention to divine signs can help us uncover new possibilities and experiences. Remember, I always quote Rumi’s “What you seek is seeking you.”

Trust your first impression — our initial reaction to a situation or person is often a result of our intuition. Instead of dismissing this feeling, take a moment to explore it further. What is your intuition trying to tell you?

Don’t forget; intuition without action would be a waste. Trusting your intuition means taking inspired action, even if it may seem unconventional or outside your comfort zone. In my earlier blog, I argued that making quick decisions and acting on them with a positive and never-give-up mindset will make you truly unstoppable.

Tapping into our deep subconscious mind for answers to challenging situations and trusting instincts for those split-second decisions, followed by action, will set you up for a life-long journey of unearthing your limitless potential.

I’m grateful for your time in reading this blog. In the comments section, let me know your experience and perspective on the subject. Please share the blog with your friends if you enjoyed reading it.

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I have been through times when I had self-doubt and thought unworthy of myself. Very quickly, I started attracting failures, frustration, and agony. Remember what Rumi says, “What you seek is seeking you.” Fortunately, I came across the books; I’m Enough by Marisa Peer, Inner Engineering by Sadhguru, and talks by Amy Cudy, Vishen Lakhiani, and Mahatria. It changed my life forever.

Self-love is about accepting and loving ourselves unconditionally. It’s about recognizing your strengths and weaknesses and embracing them both. When we love ourselves, we treat ourselves with kindness, compassion, and respect. We prioritize our physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

Many will call you selfish if you are in self-love. But the truth is that self-love is about respecting and valuing yourself. If you don’t love yourself, it’s difficult to expect someone else to love you. Self-love is the foundation of healthy relationships. When we love and accept ourselves, we can better connect with others on a deeper level. We’re more confident in our interactions with others and more likely to attract positive and supportive people into our lives.

Self-love improves emotional well-being. Research has shown that self-love can help reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. When you love and accept yourself, you’re better able to manage your emotions and handle difficult situations.

Self-love is also linked to higher levels of self-esteem. When you value yourself, you’re more likely to feel confident in your abilities and trust your judgment. This can lead to greater success in various areas of your life, such as work, relationships, and personal goals. Self-love can even help you become more resilient in the face of adversity. When you have a strong sense of self-worth, you’re better able to bounce back from setbacks and persevere through challenging times.

The key question is, if self-love is so important, why is it so uncommon or hard to practice? For many of us, it’s because we’ve been conditioned to believe love is a transaction or emotional exchange between two people. We’re taught to put others first and to prioritize their needs above our own. This can make it difficult to prioritize self-care and to love ourselves truly.

Another obstacle to self-love is our inner critic. This voice in our head tells us we’re not good enough, smart enough, or worthy enough. It’s the voice that nitpicks at our flaws and mistakes and makes us feel inadequate. Overcoming our inner critic is a crucial step in practicing self-love.

What are the signs that you are in self-love?

Pursuing Your Passions — When you prioritize your interests and pursue your passions, you show yourself love and respect. This could mean taking up a new hobby, enrolling in a class to learn a new skill, or pursuing a career you are truly passionate about.

Forgiving Yourself — We all make mistakes and have moments of weakness. However, we are not practicing self-love when we hold onto these moments and beat ourselves up over them. Learning to forgive yourself and move on is a powerful act of self-love that can help you let go of negative emotions and focus on the present moment.

Prioritizing Self-Care — Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally is vital to self-love. This could mean anything from getting enough sleep, eating healthy, and exercising to practicing mindfulness, getting therapy, or taking a mental health day to recharge.

Embracing Your Authentic Self — When we try to be someone else, we generally want to please others or fit in. We are not practicing self-love. Embracing your authentic self is a powerful act of self-love that can help you feel more confident and secure in who you are.

Creating boundaries and learning to say NO — many people struggle to say “no” to others, fearing they will disappoint or upset them. However, when you learn to set boundaries and prioritize your needs, you practice self-love. This could mean declining an invitation to an event you don’t want to attend or telling a friend that you can’t help them with something that will take up too much of your time and energy.

Self-love is a step toward exploring your potential because it removes self-doubt and helps overcome social pressures and attempts to hold you back. Some well-known people attribute self-love to their achievements. Examples include:

Michelle Obama: The former First Lady has strongly advocated for self-care and self-love. In her memoir Becoming, she writes, “I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values — and follow my own moral compass — then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own.”

Malala Yousafzai: The Nobel laureate and activist for girls’ education has advocated for self-love and self-care. In an interview with The Guardian, she said, “You have to love yourself and know your own worth…you have to take care of your mind, body, and spirit to be able to make a difference in the world.”

This Valentine, do a little self-talk and tell yourself that you have everything you need to be what you want to be. Remove every self-doubt, prioritize yourself, look in the mirror with a sense of pride, and say, I’m in love with myself, I’m abundant, and I’m ready to take on the world. Let the magic unfold.

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In his memoir, “Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds,” Goggins chronicles his journey of overcoming personal and physical challenges through discipline, self-discovery, and mental toughness. The book provides tools to overcome obstacles, both physical and mental.

In his latest book, Goggins emphasizes that you are wrong if you think you have reached your pinnacle. It is just the beginning of a never-ending endeavor. He argues that our capabilities far exceed our wildest imagination, and the decision made in a split second can change your life forever. Goggins stresses the importance of being comfortable with change and taking control of your life.

I highly recommend reading the book because every page is a lesson.

The five key ideas I noted from the book are.

Change your mindset and be a “savage” — In Goggins world, being savage is a compliment. A savage defies the odds, has a strong will that cannot be tamed, and always gets back up when knocked down. Goggins suggests that if you want to maximize minimal potential and become great in any field, you must embrace your savage side.

According to Goggins, you can become a savage by intentionally changing your mindset and using an alter-ego to turn the savage on or off. Goggins himself cultivated an alter-ego where David is his authentic self, and Goggins is his alter-ego who is fearless and unstoppable. This mental trick can help people overcome their fears and attempt things they never thought possible. Goggins uses alter-ego to power his journey to become the hardest uncommon amongst the uncommon.

Discipline and a positive attitude triumph over everything — The lack of discipline results in a half-hearted approach to life. Discipline can bend your reality. You can be born a loser, but that doesn’t determine your future. Despite life’s challenges, such as a lack of natural talent, difficult upbringing, or personal insecurities, David argues that discipline can alter one’s DNA and unlock the doors to success. Discipline provides the power to change your direction and trajectory.

Goggins believes a bad attitude is the only thing more infectious than a good one. He says the more you dwell on the negative, the weaker you feel. However, the reverse is also true. Goggins simplifies a positive attitude with his “roger that” explanation, which is not just to note “order received” but really means “order received, expect results.”

Denial is limiting, and embracing one’s pain is a strength — David believes that denial of shortcomings and fear of disappointing yourself or others can limit one’s potential. The circumstances in life are often out of our control, and it is our responsibility to take control of our future. David encourages embracing one’s identity as an underdog and never quitting when your pain and insecurity are at their peak.

Don’t be afraid to disappoint others — Goggins emphasizes that you must put your needs first, even if it means letting others down. No one will care about your problems as much as you do, so you need to take charge of your own life. To live the life you want, you need to be comfortable with the possibility of disappointing others. By doing so, you will be able to live a life that is true to yourself. David also sees negative emotions like hate as fuel and uses criticism from others as motivation to work harder and achieve goals.

Set your standards — the key message here is that don’t try to be the best among the herd, be the best version of yourself. David tells about his experience of training with Captain Connolly. David learned how to do more with less and that it was not just possible to dig deeper but mandatory if you strive to be your best self. David says that to stay humble, you’ll need to make sure you are living up to your own code for your development — far beyond the influence of parents, teachers, coaches, or other traditional mentors and their philosophies.

I want to leave you with two quotes from Goggins:

I’m still haunted, but I’ve traded in my demons for evil-ass angels, and now, it’s a good haunting. I’m haunted by my future goals, not my past failures. I’m haunted by what I may still become. I’m haunted by my own continued thirst for evolution.

AND

The world needs all of us to evolve into the very best versions of ourselves. That’s a moving target, and it isn’t a one-time task. It is a lifelong quest for more knowledge, more courage, more humility, and more belief. Because when you summon the strength and discipline to live like that, the only thing limiting your horizons is you.

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The balance between masculine and feminine energy is the basis of our existence. Ancient scriptures have reflected on how masculine and feminine energies define our lives. Ancient Hindu scripture tells us that the union of Shiva (masculine) and Shakti (feminine) created everything we see and feel. The folklore details that the basis of creation is Shiva, but the first act of creation is from Shakti. Shiva is the eternal Spirit, the Absolute. Shakti, the Divine Mother, is his creative partner; Shiva could never have created the world without her.

The evidence is strong enough to consider that we possess both energies. The challenge is whether they are in harmony or not.

Masculine energy is about doing, and feminine is about being. However, the world is losing the much-needed balance between masculine and feminine, which is how nature created us. Today, the world is about domination (masculine) rather than inclusion (feminine). Almost everyone gives more importance to economics (masculine) than aesthetics (feminine). The need to balance masculinity and femininity within ourselves now is greater than ever.

In this world, we know everything because of an opposite force. For instance, we know light because we have seen darkness. We know sound because we have felt silence. Everything is relative and can’t exist in isolation.

Consider this: in general, the masculine is leaning towards earth, which gives attributes such as firmness and assertion, whereas the feminine is more inclined toward the water, which is mellow and more flexible. Similarly, the sun represents masculine energy, with attributes such as heat, intellect, and power source. On the other hand, the moon represents feminine qualities such as calmness and beauty. Can these exist in isolation?

But why is it important to get these energies to work in harmony within ourselves? The answer is to achieve our maximum potential and live a fulfilled life.

Many people have argued to achieve polarity with these energies for successful and passionate relationships. This aspect is essential.

My small personal experiences make me believe that conscious nurture of both masculine and feminine among ourselves, not only with others, will put you on the path of inclusive and unlimited growth.

You may have heard people saying that behind every successful man, there is a woman. A female business partner, spouse, mother, or sister who is closely associated with you in your thought process could significantly impact your life.

Napoleon Hill strongly suggests in his legendary book, How to Own Your Mind, “…every man should include at least one woman in his Master Mind alliance. When the minds of male and female are combined, or blended, in a spirit of harmony, the alliance tunes in and appropriates a much greater proportion of that force which we call ‘spiritual power’ than either can appropriate when operating independently.”

Mr. Hill further states, “…the ideal relationship, of course, is one in which a man’s wife (if he is married) also becomes a member of his Master Mind alliance. She may not participate in the business conferences he has with the other members of his alliance, but she can have a lot to do with the ‘Mental attitude’ in which he enters these conferences, and in that way, exercise a powerful influence on the group as a whole that affect him.”

Imagine if you could activate the feminine traits within yourself. Imagine a person who does hard work but needs to be using creativity to act smartly and accomplish much more. Similarly, harnessing the power of intuition in making a deal that seems logical until now. We could make much better decisions and achieve more by activating the masculine and feminine in us.

This is a continuous endeavor. Nature has created us with both masculine and feminine energies, and there is no point in being one or the other when we can be both within ourselves.

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Even we, ourselves, do negative self-talk and create negative emotions. We are hesitant to admit our laziness, continued procrastination, and lack of will and blame how external factors stop us from doing all the great things we ever wanted to do.

However, we are always advised to suppress negative emotions and only remember the positive ones. We know it is hard, but we bury them within ourselves and move on without realizing the power of transformation they offer. Negative experiences and emotions are inevitable, but how we respond determines if we will use them as a source of strength or allow them to hold us back. Negative experiences don’t always feel good in real-time but offer immense opportunities for personal growth and uncover an even greater limitless potential.

I subconsciously and thankfully learned to harness my negative experiences and emotions early in my life and use them to convince myself that I must change my reality. I was bullied many times and made fun of. I felt sad several times for not having the means to do things and how our family’s situation was in my early life. for instance, I was embarrassed when I did not even have the bus fare to go with my friend to Delhi, who was traveling just to buy a jacket. There are several other such experiences where I felt inferior and that I’m not enough.

I have felt ashamed for not being able to converse in English correctly.In one incident, I could not understand the American accent or communicate with some people during my first visit in 2006. I had to eat onion rings for two weeks straight for lunch because I could not speak adequately to ask whether there was meat in other options. Similarly, when I started working for an American company, they had a weekly all-staff call, and I HAD TO SPEAK. I was terrified every single time and tried to find an excuse.

There have been several experiences where everyone doubted my abilities or decisions, including my family and friends. Even today, at every step in my journey, to become the best version of myself, people always tell me that I’m thinking beyond the realm of possibilities. They will try and instill self-doubt, discourage you, and want to hold you back. The doubts often come with sharp and disheartening words that could never leave you and, most of the time, do not let you live to your potential.

However, in all these experiences, one other thing was common. I willfully did not want to forget them. I will memorize every little detail. Even to an extent where I would remember what I was wearing, where I was, the surroundings in all colors, what was explicitly said, and every emotion that crossed my mind and heart in its tiniest expression. I promised myself that it would not happen again and that I will change this reality no matter what. Whenever I feel that I’m deviating from my objective for a few days, I will relive these experiences as vividly as I can imagine, not in fast track but in slow motion. I would feel every emotion I had at the time and recall my determination not to let it happen again.

David Goggins suggests in his book to record your inner dialogue in detail by spilling out all dread, laziness, and stress into the mic. He advises playing it back to yourself many times. Chances are that you would not like yourself cringing. This should be used as motivation to change the situation for the better.

Self-talk is essential. Regardless of how loud the negative voices are, know that you have the power to liberate and redefine yourself. Listening to ourselves out loud clears the mind. At this very moment, we know the right thing to do is to keep moving forward with force. These words become actions, and our actions establish habits that can code our minds and bodies and set us on the journey to unearthing our true potential.

I can tell you with my first-hand experience that the negative emotions you have been suppressing or trying to forget have real transformational power. They have helped me shape my life for the better. Sometimes I found my calling regarding what I wanted to achieve, and sometimes it was about not letting something happen to me again. Nevertheless, these negative emotions and experiences gave me light and put me on a path of endless discovery. Now, they have become an extension of me.

I’m in no way advising you always to suffer negative experiences and live miserable lives while you chase your dreams. I’m suggesting they provide a lot of strength and motivation if you can use them at your will.

Don’t avoid, ignore, or suppress your emotions. Instead, face them, accept them, and own them. Rumi said, “the wound is where the light enters you.”

I have successfully used these negative emotions to my advantage and overcame many hurdles in my life. However, I’m not done yet…there is much fuel left in the tank.

#neverarrive #limitlesspotential

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Birth is the new beginning. The reference to the poor at birth can also be viewed as a blank page of a new story. How we live our life, set goals, whatever they are, and the experiences we gather on the journey to accomplish them will define how rich we are in the end. Dying poor signifies that we did not live to our full potential. Imagine yourself thinking on your deathbed that there were so many things you could have accomplished. This state is parallel to dying poor.

Dying rich is answering yes to; did we live to discover our true potential. Did we create an atmosphere for emotional, personal, mental, financial, and spiritual growth? Did we become better people, contribute to the community, and leave the planet better than we found will define the richness of life.

However, you can’t deny that money solves most problems and is a crucial component of many other life objectives. So, let’s first address the issue of getting rich.

Naval Ravikant says that every person on earth could become rich. The irony is that most people do not believe they could be rich. They accept it as their reality. Confucius said the man who says he can and the man who says he cannot…are both correct.

Creating wealth starts with a strong desire, unstoppable action, and the unshakable belief that the goal will be achieved. Unlike prior generations, where only a few entrepreneurs could get rich by executing industrial projects, others traded their time for a living. Technological developments over the last few decades laid the foundation accessible to this generation, providing tools and opportunities to create wealth.

Technology is an excellent equalizer by democratizing accessibility to various tools, including software, automation, and information/knowledge. Most of all, technology is taking on mundane tasks so that we can be creative in innovating novel business ideas, products, solutions, and services. This is how the new generation will create unprecedented wealth.

Peter Diamandis says if you can solve a problem for billion people, you have a billion-dollar business opportunity. Technology provides tools to experiment and create faster at an unprecedented pace, reach more audiences digitally and physically, even for your niche product or service, and a real-time feedback loop to improvise and maximize output.

Internet connectivity and computational power laid the foundation, but the next generation sets the stage for unparallel productivity and creativity. For example, think about how the breakthrough of GPT-3 and DALL.E will help create value by helping write code and design images.

The limitless creativity of human beings and unwavering persistence, combined with rapid innovation, will inevitably generate wealth.

However, I concur with many others that creating wealth should not be the sole goal; instead, it is about happiness, family, and many other qualities of life. I want to put this from a different perspective. Fulfillment in life is what you aim for. Now, fulfillment could have different definitions for people.

For the majority, it is about creating wealth, but many prioritize spirituality or taking care of the family as a primary objective. Nothing wrong with it. The key is leaving no stone unturned in achieving your calling. Suppose your life objective is to be spiritual or become a good father. Devote your life to it; the accomplishment will make you feel rich.

I’m sure you will agree that this is 100% our making, and everyone has a choice to be rich in this perspective. Rumi said, “What matters is how quickly you do what your soul directs.”

I have made my choice to create wealth and live a fulfilling life. Have you made a choice? Let’s go on the journey together and unfold the possibilities.

#neverarrive #limitlesspotential

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The world lost so many people in 2022. When I learned about the sad demise of the soccer icon of the 20th century, Pelé, I could not stop thinking about how mortal we all are. Pelé played an instrumental role in popularizing soccer. He played for 21 years and scored 1,283 goals in 1,367 professional matches, including 77 for the Brazilian national team. However, the list of achievements doesn’t bail you out. Pelé leaves a legacy not many would ever do, but he must leave in the end. This is the ultimate truth! No one overrides this.

But why am I talking about death when we are getting ready to welcome the new year? Most of us need to pay attention to the fact that our time on the planet is limited. Every moment, we are closer to our grave. Indian mystic, Sadhguru says in his book, Death, “The greatest calamity of the human mind is that it is against death. The moment you reject death, you also reject life. Don’t be dead serious. Life is a brief sparkle, but you shall be dead for a very long time.”

If we understand and embrace this ultimate truth, would we waste any time not living to our most profound capacity? I don’t think we will procrastinate or have grudges for anyone. We will all want to live joyfully. There was a dialogue in a Bollywood movie Anand, which stuck with me. I loosely translate it to “Life doesn’t need to be long. It should be big.” The essence is that why be afraid of death? It will inevitably come. Live like every moment is last and make it memorable.

Naval Ravikant says, “our lives are a blink of a firefly in the night. You’re just barely here. You have to make the most of every minute, which doesn’t mean you chase some stupid desire for your entire life. What it means is that every second you have on this planet is precious, and it’s your responsibility to ensure you’re happy and interpret everything in the best possible way.”

We all make resolutions at the end of the year, thinking we will all do something in the new year that will change our life for the better. It is a good exercise, but the resolutions are usually broken within the first few weeks because they lack action, and in our subconscious mind, we believe there is enough time left, and we will have another chance.

How about the resolution to live every moment joyfully and not make our happiness dependent on the outcome of whatever our goals are?Strive to become the best version of yourself, become boundless to do more, and celebrate life. I realized today that the quest to be always right makes the surroundings unhappy. I chose to be joyful, not just for myself, but for the ones who matter and make life worth living.

Rumi says, Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.

This is my new year’s resolution. What is yours?

Happy New year to you and your loved ones! May this be the best year so far!

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